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Behavior chart for Children and Teens

How many times you have felt you need to bring a positive acceptable and agreeable behavior in your child but unable to bring those positive behaviours in your children. You sit for whole day with your child to convince him/her to understand what is positive behavior and tried to get them disciplines  but have not been able to do so. 

You would have made them to understand by using sweet words, gifts, rewards. At one point of time you would have even felt  your child/teen has understood and you would have relived finally positive behavior has been instilled in them. But next day or some times next moment you see them again not following them. 

When analyzing with an unbiased mind  this we come to know why a positive behaviour does not last for long especially in children/ Teen.

Children learn by seeing YOU and Practicing. 

You say some thing, they don’t understand . They want a model they want a route map that holds their hand everyday.

Not only that, Mind is after all Mind it looks for what do I get out of doing it. it searches for a reward. Also it tries to avoid the unwanted hurting.  

It is common for all and children are no exception. Hence it is always better to have a chart of what children/teen can do what is acceptable and what is not. This helps children/teens to  follow a routine which inturn makes them to understand and practice it by making it a habbit.

Most of our children’s parents have been asking me for a chart. keeping them in mind I have been able to design a chart. Hope it does help them .

How use them.

First make a list of  positive behaviors . while making this list let the child sits with you and take input from him . Make entire list . now ask him what are the rewards he/she needs for her good behavior . They are positive consequences .

such as

saying Please and thank you

Saying sorry

asking before taking anything

Knocking on Doors before Entering

Covering One’s Mouth When Sneezing or Coughing

Saying ‘Excuse me’

Not Making Fun of People

Show Respect to Elders

and so on (make a list of them according to your situations)

similary make a list of agreeable behaviors also make a positive consequences  .

watching tv  with a specied time

next comes

List of Behaviors

Agreeable behavior’s Positive consequences
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
Non agreeable behavior Consequences
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
Bad behavior Negative consequences
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10

Make these lists

Best Behaviors Positive Consequence
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
Dates from _____ to _______ Behavior and description Type Consequence
Sunday
Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thursday
Friday
Saturday

Tips

Print the Behavior chart in a a2 size sheet, and hang it in a visible area especially the Living room. Make it a habit to fill the chart every day. And review them every week. Let the behaviors be very clear Such as

Instead of “watched TV for more time”.

“Today you watched TV for _____ may hours which is more than allotted time” .

Instead of
“You did not do any work” .

“Today you were supposed to ……(specify work) at ……. To …… . and you could not accomplish the same(avoid But as much as possible)”

Attach list of behavior sheets in those places where child sees mostly. Avoid attaching the bad behaviors every where. Only good and agreeable behaviors are to be pasted every where.

Bad and not agreeable behaviors can be attached in one place.

Time table/Scheduler for children at Home

Select the Activities that are appropriate to your child/children/ you can also add new activities as needed. Please be firm at the same time take it as a game. If the child is unable to perform any activities regularly help him/her to achieve.

Make it a practice for few days, you too try to follow the similar routine . practice becomes Behaviors. And behavior become habits. And habits create identity.

Week days/weekends

ActivityDescriptionTime
Wake up time  
Study time  
Exercise time  
Coffee and refreshment  
Bathing then prayer  
Getting ready to school  
Coming back from school time  
Lunch/or shacks/sleeping time  
Playing time  
Home work time/study time/tuition  
Dinner and house hold work time  
Mobile activity allowed  
Sleeping time  
TV time  
Shopping time  
Playing with family time  

Contract

Make a small contract that both parent and child follow the consequences accordingly for the behaviour. The more positive consequences, the bonus consequences (reward or cutting in the facilities).

And both the parties agree for the same by signing. Better have all family members present and also one external person for monitoring the entire activities, especially a neutral, child coach, or child counselor.

Inform the child that this is important as he/she also does lot of good activities .which go unidentified many a times hence to have the reward this contract is must, also every one follow the same.

Many a times this can be used for even parents.

It could be played as a game to have fun.

Check lists.

Prepare the following check lists . you can attach them on the school bag.

Check lists before getting ready to school ( you can attach it at the entrance of the room of the child too.)

Examples.
Keep uniform ready.
Pencils and pens are in place.
All notes for the day has been taken.
Keep the shoes polished.

Check list before coming living from the school/class.

Examples.
All pencils and pens (any other things).
Lunch box.
Home work book.
Notes.
Text etc..

Checklist at home.

Example.
Home work.
Revision of class.
Notes preparation.
Discussing the same s with parents.

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